I am quite attracted to my husband. He has many amazing and attractive qualities, but the main things about him that made me know he was the one was his intelligence + his love and admiration of God. Both of these together captured me hook, line and sinker…I was done for. He also makes me laugh, he’s kind, he’s gentle, he has rough hands, he’s taller than me, he has nice hairy arms, muscles, he’s got this aggressive streak that is so sexy, his chest feels so hard…….sigh…..
But I don’t think this is what attracts all women to men (thank goodness for me!). I know women who are attracted to strength and gentleness, they have an incredible need for safety. Perhaps their father divorced their mom so they are scared. Safety is their #1 attraction factor.
I know women who are attracted to ambition and hard work in a man. I actually avoided this type of man when I was looking for a husband, it scared me, I worried he wouldn’t be kind, he wouldn’t put people first. But I know women who are very happy in their marriages with this kind of man. Perhaps they grew up without money, or were always last on the list and they wanted to have freedom to do what they wanted in life.
I even know a woman who is attracted to men of mercy. She had a rough childhood, lot of rebellion and pain. But the man she ended up with is overflowing with mercy and love. He is an amazing man, especially once you figure out his gifts, and I love seeing them together, they make each other very happy.
I have a friend who is attracted to her husband’s unique artistic abilities. She grew up with a sister who was just like her and who seemed perfect. Instead of competing with her sister, she chose a different route. She chose an artist. He paints, does graphic design, and they tour in a band. Her wearing thigh high boots and playing the keyboard with pink stripes in her hair and him singing the lead with his guitar. She loves it, loves the uniqueness of her path, loves and admires her husband.
So what about you? What is it about your husband that attracts you to him? And if you’re dating, I encourage you to think about your one thing and put more focus on that. It’s impossible to find a perfect man but it is possible to find your perfect man.