No matter how submissive, how kind, how supportive, how sweet you are, if you don’t have an interesting full life without your husband, you are putting him on a pedestal and you are not living life to the fullest. So take some time to figure out what you want to do, what brings you joy, what makes you passionate, and go after it.
I’ve heard of marriage being compared to a see-saw before where sometimes he’s the one on top and you are making all the sacrifices for him and sometimes you get to be on top and he makes it possible for you to be successful. Don’t be the one stuck on the bottom all the time. Your life is not meant to completely revolve around your husband and your children, find your place in this world, find your community, find your people.
“The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.” Frederick Buechner