For greatest intimacy and less stress, let your husband handle the finances. Before you talk to him about it, read this chapter thoroughly and then go back and follow each of the steps.
If you’re thinking you’ll surrender in every way except financially, think again. You will miss out on some of the greatest benefits of surrendering if you skip this part. (pg. 89)
This is a really big chapter (near 20 pages) that takes on a heavy subject. The premise is simple- turn over control of the money to your husband. However, a simple premise doesn’t always translate into easy execution. This is a really difficult step and so Laura has provided a lot of suggestions and even steps to help us move from being in charge of the money in whatever way to relinquishing control of it.
What This is About
Giving up control of the money is scary because often we see money as giving us a sense of security. If there’s enough money- and we know where it is- we can assure ourselves that we will always be comfortable, that we can handle any emergency, that we can pay for any services- whether it’s a haircut or a divorce attorney. So, what happens when you give up control of the finances? You are in the most vulnerable position of all because you now have to depend on your husband to keep you safe and comfortable. The result? You will have to trust him with all your might. (pg. 91)
For a man, there’s nothing more conducive to intimacy than feeling proud and masculine. He’ll never feel that more strongly than when he is protecting and supporting his family (if you don’t have children, you are his family) by spending, saving, and investing. Therefore, when you give control of the finances to your husband, you take a powerful stride toward being more intimate with him. (pg. 91)
What do you think of this idea? What do you think of the suggestions she made to help us ease into this?