On the RedPillWoman subreddit, there are a few young girls that have basically given up on meeting a mate. The crazy thing is that they are in college, so they should be swamped with willing suitors. We older women are of course giving them the same suggestions to dress femininely, look pretty and smile a lot, but these girls say that they are attractive and work out.
Their main complaint is that they go to class and then go home and study; some of them live with their parents. They are perplexed as how to meet men when they aren’t ever actually around many men. At least one of them is having absolutely no problems saving herself for marriage. These are girls in their early twenties, and they have a lot of friends that are in the same boat.
How do you meet a man when you aren’t exposed to very many men on a daily basis? You expose yourself to them. You have to go where there are people. College should be an excellent place to meet a young guy because there are so many places on campus where students gather. When I was there I would have a cup of coffee in the Student Union or sit under a tree outside.
When I was taking classes a few years ago there were lounges full of students using the wifi while waiting for class to start. There are all kinds of sports happening, and if a girl didn’t want to be lost in the crowd at a football game, there are smaller, more intimate sports like tennis, rugby and lacrosse (plus the rugby and lacrosse players are hot).
Say a girl is out of college, immersed in the working world, she could always have lunch outside on nice days. Even sitting in a café sipping an iced tea is a good way to be seen. If you work at a large company, that might be a good place to look for a potential suitor if there aren’t company rules against interoffice dating.
Of course, just being seen isn’t enough; you must be open to meeting men. My first suggestion would be to make sure you don’t have Resting Bitch Face; try to paste the most pleasant expression possible on your face. It’s like sucking in your gut and using good posture, you want to also make sure you aren’t accidentally grimacing.
Then, if a man meets your eye, smile. This should encourage him to come over and meet you. Don’t just smile at the best looking guys or the tallest, best dressed guys; smile at every guy. You never know if he has charisma unless you actually meet him. Some of the least attractive men can become very attractive when you talk to them.
If you are introverted or have trouble being comfortable around strangers and strange places, go ahead and go to the same place on a regular basis. You have to go somewhere and be uncomfortable for the first time or two before you can get comfortable being there. It’s always nice to be somewhere you know the servers. If you sit outside, sit in the same place every time. There are introverted men that are having the same problems meeting girls.
Be nice to every man that talks to you. Look for something good about every man you talk to. You don’t have to marry every man you meet, so it really does no harm to be friendly. You can always vet him later during your courtship.