As I was taking my husband’s blue jeans out of the dryer this morning, I wondered how they would fit me. So I took them into the bedroom and tried them on just for kicks, sadly they fit perfectly :(, better than my jeans even. Now don’t try and tell me you haven’t tried anything crazy like that before, I know! My husband is in pretty good shape, but he is a foot taller than me, so having the same waist size is NOT okay with me. I know my best friend has the same waist size as her husband too because I’ve seen her make jean skirts out of his old jeans.
It makes me think about something I’ve read (Athol Kay??) that says “we become like the people we hang out with”. As much as I hate to think about choosing friends based on their strengths and weaknesses; I remember if an alcoholic wants to quit drinking, one of the first requirements is for them to leave their drinking buddies and find new friends who don’t drink. I don’t want you to leave your husband or anything, but I do want you to think about the top five people you hang out with most. Are their weaknesses causing you to struggle with your goals or are they motivating you to be better? It’s okay to have one or two friends with the same weaknesses you do, but if most of them are also struggling with weight issues and your number one goal is to lose weight, you might need to start seeing them less
and go join some new groups.
As a SAHM, my group of people is very small. It consists of my husband, my mom, my best friend, my mother-in-law….I can’t even think of five. Sad, I know….and internet friends don’t count. Based on my four people, I have a 75% chance of failing in my weightloss goals. So I’m branching out, I’m limiting my time at my mom’s and my mother-in-law’s house (they both always have treats) and I’m volunteering for some kids’ groups where I know the other moms are healthy and fit women. I’m not an alcoholic, but I do have a problem and serious problems require serious life changes.